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isookvi

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Apr 14, 2015
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I have a question regarding "First Meeting". I am not entirely sure if I am supposed to describe the first meeting that started our relationship or the first time we ever met.

My case is that my marriage is arranged and I am married to my sister's good friend. I have known her for years but we officially entered into a relationship after our families arranged for our marriage.

So do I mention the first time we ever met each other or our first meeting after our families met and arranged for our marriage? Also, I do not remember the exact date of my first ever meeting with my wife, however, I do remember that I met her for sure on my sister's birthday 7 years ago. Can I put that as our first meeting as thats the one I distinctly remember?

Thanks
 
It would still be the first time that you physically met. With many that is also before they are aware they will end up in a relationship.
 
If your sister's birthday 7 years ago was within a year or so of meeting, I would say it's a good pick, especially if you have photos of you both at the event.

The actual date doesn't really matter, so long as you, your spouse, and your forms are consistent. For example, I first met my wife on one of two Saturday nights in November. We picked one and ran with it. It's the date that we tell our friends and family we officially first met, and have our account of the night in sync (apparently, she was miffed at me because I didn't dance with her much and was more focused on my then girlfriend).
 
You can always write both. You can say you first met as family friends in x, but after your marriage was arranged you met in that different capacity on x. As Mapleson said, as long as the forms are consistent and you have told the truth everywhere, it's fine. If you're ever unsure, just write both options and CIC will take it from there. :)

Generally speaking, with stuff like this, as long as your explanation or description is reasonable, complete, and honest, little nitpicky stuff like this (like does first meeting mean first overall or first as a couple) tends not to cause any issues. :)