We don't have kids....just saying.
I think as a general rule everyone should really re consider, or even re read before jumping the gun and posting...I'm not saying I'm perfect either, I mean I did modify the OP in efforts to avoid missing the point..
But getting down right rude right off the bat isn't really suggested for anything....and I don't believe I was ever rude, or directional attacks.
Keep in mind, that I have nothing to gain from this, our application is done, and no amount of anything at this point can change the circumstances, I'm simply posting in efforts to maybe see if something can't help others, as I wouldn't wish this sort of family pain on my worst enemy.
Keep in mind that in Canada, and especially this forum there is a huge diversity and things are often interpreted wrong, but that's no reason to instantly lash out, trust me, if you feel like lashing out, you probably missed the point, or it doesn't apply to you...so just move on.
Cheers!