house cleaner preg.

[loloflove]

hi i live in alberta canada.ive met a few philipino men/women over the years several who have offered to clean my house as additional income.no problem however i had a girl try to establish a relationship with me after talking about breaking up with her girlfriend that she helped bring to alberta from taiwan.she came here from taiwan aswell.she has been here almost 4 years.in the last year she has been trying hard to establish somekind of relaitionship.she is temp foreign worker struggling to get her PR.NOW SHE IS PREGNANT. this child is mine there is no doubt about it.however we cant get along and i think she has been trying to stay here and saw me as another option.PROBLEMS she is determined to have the child born in alberta her health care will expire and is asking me to pay hospital bill. its very clear this girl has no feelings for me..she has payed several thousand dollers and applied for her pr with no success do to the temp foreign workers being cut.she had the option of abortions she refused.i regrett what is happening however i think she is trying to set me up.everything i say or do is held against me.if i marry her my life will be hell,however i have considered paying for the hospital and keeping the child with me.she has never asked for any support untill the reality of her healthcare expiring.any advice or direction is greatly needed.we dont even get along well enough for me to marry her as a favor to keep her health care.she tells me she dont need my money she only needs my moral support.im worried about the wellbeing of this child aswell as the girl who has my child.child will be due in april 2015.i feel like she is trying to take me on a ride and i dont know were it going.she has made all the decisions and will not consider any input from me.the fact that she is risking her life for a child born in canada goin against all odds tells me she is not doing this for her but possibly for her mother or extended family.any quiestions i will answer. thanx

 

[etienbjel]

I think you need to consult a lawyer on this. You will get some great advice from members here, but whatever you do next will be very critical for the rest of your life. Best to invest in an expert opinion.

But whatever you do, do not marry this woman.

 

[wowsers]

Agreed. Dont under any circumstances marry the girl until you have consulted a lawyer. My guess is that you will in any event be liable to pay maintenance for the child until it is 16 and maybe for longer than that; but if you marry her there will probably be all sorts of other repercussions as well.

 

[saria1]

Tell her to cross the border into the USA and have the baby here. Then she surely won't be deported out of the States with Obama's new immigration plan.... Ok so I was being partially sarcastic.

Sounds like you're in a pickle and probably have a bit of a fight on your hands to even get full custody of your daughter. As a man, I would hope, since you know this is your child, that you would help her with the medical expenses.

 

[PMM]

Hi

Agreed. Dont under any circumstances marry the girl until you have consulted a lawyer. My guess is that you will in any event be liable to pay maintenance for the child until it is 16 and maybe for longer than that; but if you marry her there will probably be all sorts of other repercussions as well.

1. Child support in Canada is to the age of 18, longer if the child attends post secondary school.

 

[Rob_TO]

You are under no obligation to marry her, and no obligation to sponsor her for PR. However you will be responsible for care of the child, at least financially, as the father. Her having a Canadian child with a Canadian father, will do nothing to help her get PR status here unless you decide to marry or become common-law and then sponsor her. The choice is yours.

If you are concerned about pregnancy/delivery hospital costs, you and her should look into getting a midwife. In Alberta midwives offer their services for free even for those with no healthcare. And if she did a home birth there would be no charge for delivery.
http://www.alberta-midwives.com/what-is-a-midwife/midwifery-qa/#pay
Do I have to pay for midwifery care?
No. As of April 1, 2009 Alberta Health Services fully funds the course of care for midwifery services. Registered Midwives do not charge any fees for midwifery care.

Also note that once the child is born, as soon as you are living together you automatically become common-law for CRA tax purposes (but not for immigration purposes).

 

[canadianwoman]

Don't marry her or live with her if you do not want to. However, you will have to pay child support for the child (certainly - it depends on your income) and maybe some money for 'lying in' costs - the costs related to the birth - depending on the province. Again depending on the province, if you live with her at the time of birth or after, you may be considered common-law for spousal support - though not for immigration.