help me friendz

[humtum051187]

Hello friend, i need help from your people..
i was born in india then i moved to USA when i was 15 years old and i came back at age of 22.. then i went to australia for study but i came back to india withing six months. after came back from australia i have tried canada student visa and i got refusal 3 times....

then i just got married with a girl whos canadian citizen... shes older then me 5 years... and shes christian... tell me friends what are my chances?

my marriage is geniune.. we have phonebills, e-mail, chatts, photos, marriage photos.. our honeymoon proofs... and everything else...

plz friendz be honest and tell me what are my chances... Thankxz for reading this friends !!!!!

 

[hogaishaadi]

if you have all your proofs as you are stating, than you should be fine... lots of evidence towards a genuine marriage will get you through...

 

[canadianwoman]

1. Was this an arranged marriage? If it was, you will need to explain why your parents and her parents thought she was a good match for you in spite of her being older. You will also have to explain why your marriage celebrations did not fit traditional Indian norms (assuming they didn't).
2. If it was a love match, then you should have fewer problems. Just include a lot of evidence showing how long you have been a couple, and showing the development of your relationship. If it is a love match, her age will be less of a problem, and maybe no problem at all.
3. With different religions, explain you two have discussed this issue and have agreed about what to do, how you will raise your children, etc.
4. The stays in the USA and Australia should not be issues. Three refusals for Canadian study permits will be an issue. You can counter this -again - by showing lots of proof your relationship is genuine.
5. You should also get both sets of parents to write affidavits or letters saying they approve of the match and believe your relationship is genuine.

How did you meet your wife? And how long did you know her before you got married? These things also will influence the visa officer's opinion about whether the relationship is genuine.

 

[Fencesitter]

My wife and I didn't have a traditional Chinese or Western wedding...but we explained this honestly - we were saving all our money to start a family and eventually relocate to Canada, so having a traditional wedding would have cost us too much and we decided it was more prudent to save...CIC can't expect everyone to have a traditional wedding, as some people don't want that...which is fair enough and shouldn't be a question as long as you provide enough proof of the relationship...

As for religion, we are both atheist...but we never mentioned this...we didn't feel it was important...how does religion play a role? What difference does it make? I can't see the relevance...

Of course there will be differences if someone marries a person from a different culture...that goes without saying, so why would CIC place much importance on this? For my situation, both sides of the family approved, but even if they didn't, we would have gotten married anyways...who are they to tell us how to live our lives??

FS

 

[humtum051187]

yes fen your are right.... i do understand no one can tell us how to live our lives.. but i love my wife so much and i want to be with her forever...

shes not ready to live in india and i dont want to live without her so, i want to be with her any how and in any condituion. ...

i just have a problem with AGE, 3 times canada student visa rejection???? thatz all ...

 

[iyikk]

where did you marriage in India? or some where else? as per my knowledge if you married in India, then you both should be register in register office, it doesn't matter for register marriage either any of both christian or hindu, if your marriage is legal then you obviously fine and you can go through.......all the best.

 

[Fencesitter]

Most of the time I love my wife to death...but there are days...oh...there are days...when I could strangle her!!! Haha...that's a real marriage, right? I should have included all the things I dislike about my wife, kind of like "Festivus" if you have ever watched "Seinfeld"...Seriously, if the VO is married, he/she will surely know if the relationship is real or not...

FS

 

[canadianwoman]

The visa officers at New Delhi have the view that if one is going to have an arranged marriage, then you had better do everything by the book and have a traditional Indian wedding as well. Issues that would not matter in other countries are issues there: for example, the age difference. A wife who is 5 years older would not raise an eyebrow in a Western visa office; it probably will in India. Different religions are not necessarily an issue, but will be in New Delhi.
It seems it was not an arranged marriage, however, so the age difference and religious difference are not as big an issue. And a traditional wedding will not be seen as necessary either. You will just need a lot of evidence that your relationship has lasted for a long time and is genuine.