Common law and Married

[Yaya Marei]

I need guys her an open mind and just we share our opinions here,

One day I met lady at work with her boy friend, we started to talked every time she come over. and we become kind of friend,
I asked her question : how long you have been together she said 10 years, I asked when is the next step will be, she was sad and said I do not know , when he agree to this step ( mean her bf).


so do not misunderstand my opinion, what I mean why people still in common law relationship, if they believe the partner is good one, if they believe he/ she is not, will not stay in this relationship.

is the person good to be in common law but not wife or husband ?!! I just need to understand this ,
please do not give me (-) opinion we are here to discuss things in immigration and support each other and know the different things.

does they stay in common law to have easy way to leave this relationship. or for not face divorce and financial problem with it, or just simple they choses that.

It could upset some of you, but just give me your opinion and let me then rethinking
Thanks

 

[Baloo]

does they stay in common law to have easy way to leave this relationship. or for not face divorce and financial problem with it, or just simple they choses that.

In many countries there is very little difference (married or common law) when together or when separating - for people in these counties I guess it is a choice.

 

[Karlshammar]

Yaya,

People make individual choices, and there is no way for us to know what their motivation is. Some people just don't believe in marriage.

 

[Jen85]

Some people don't need a piece of paper to prove their love for each other. And some have been burned by a horrible divorce and don't want to repeat the experience. Everyone has their own beliefs and they should be respected.

 

[Love_Young]

Like people said it is all about personal choice. Maybe they were raised that way, already feel like they are married, or their culture was that way. My husbands parents have been together for 27 years and just now engaged. Two months ago they were going to go through a separation and now they want to get married. I don't understand it especially since during our wedding planning they both said they don't believe in marriage so why now? Makes me wonder. I think whatever works best for the couple is what they should stick to. Some don't believe in marriage, others don't want joint finances, and some don't want children. Just a matter of life and preference really.

 

[ufa]

There is a fantastic program on CBC radio right now describing some of the differences between Common Law and Marriage. I missed most of it, but may look it up online to hear more - it was on the Sunday Edition on CBC 1. I think they were just trying to highlight the fact that people in Common Law don't have all the same rights as married people and that only 1% of the population knew... I don't know if this was for all provinces or just Manitoba.

Personally, when i was younger, i never wanted to get married - as i didn't really see the point. I was raised with no religion and this may have been part of it, and I didn't feel that making something 'official' would change anything. If we loved each other and wanted to be with each other for ever - why would it need to be on paper. I remember telling my mom this once and she said, as long as you get some sort of official agreement with your partner (i guess she is one of the 1%, and also knew people who have been 'burned' by divorce, let alone the breakdown of a common-law relationship).

Now that I am married (recently), I obviously feel differently. We had a civil marriage, and although the ceremony itself didn't mean much to me, the small celebration with family afterwards was very nice and I love that we have 'cemented' our commitment to each other to my friends and family, and each other. I also never thought I'd want a wedding ring, but my husband did and now i couldn't be without it - especially because i'm without him for a while...

 

[ufa]

http://www.cbc.ca/video/news/audioplayer.html?clipid=1691638126

Jump ahead to 34 minutes... interesting stuff regarding common-law rights in Canada.

 

[Yaya Marei]

Thanks Guys for opinions , ;D and thanks for people they just passed by and give me (-) too

my opinion after I watch the program you mention UFA , it really different between married and common in law, I am not talking about religion issue or what will jump in your mind, it just share opinions,

Common law easy to get out of it any time you want , so there no really commitment toward each other. married is not just paper , it is commitment every person looking for it. I was in common law for 2 years, then I said one second, do I need to be with this person, do I really care, do I really want to spend my life with him, share my financial, my all resources with him, the answer come yes , so I get married.

Thanks

 

[missmini]

the common law could be as committed as the married or more; and also same for married, they could be less committed than common-law (maybe it's arranged marriage who knows) or more; i understand ur point especially cuz in some places u r either married or u r single (there's no common-law check box it all depends of culture, religion, personal beliefs and personal choices

also in some places getting married could b a real headache especially if the couple is from different countries; plus maybe they r a religion minority in that country, maybe legal marriage does not exist in that country, maybe they want their families there and that's impossible, maybe there r too many papers to gather which could get really costly; everyone has a personal reason behind their actions and we shouldn't judge; at the end if ur family or friends r not there to share the moment with u it's just a piece of paper; the important is what u feel in ur heart