hi you mention that rukhsati was not performed, but you also mentioned it is not nikkah only case. both these answers contradict
so did you guys do a rukhsati yet? or did you guys only sign nikkah and wife did not go home with husband?
Hi there,
I’m Pathan, and for me rukhsati means honeymoon. I’m guessing for the majority who follow this thread it means wedding ceremony. Please correct me if I’m wrong.
No matter what meaning you assign, we did neither. We originally performed nikkah when we first met in Italy a couple of years ago, and it was a religious ceremony only, not legal. Then last September we legally married in Pakistan, but we did not have any sort of wedding ceremony or party. It just wasn’t important to us and would have been a huge culture shock for my wife.
So that’s why I answered with “N” for nikkah only. It’s legal, we have both certificates from the court in Mardan and Nadra. I was thinking that Nikkah only meant the religious ceremony only, not a registered marriage. It’s common in my village to not register your marriage with the court until the birth of a child.
Sorry to be so long-winded! Basically, if our case is considered “Nikkah only” by your (or whoever the author is) understanding, by all means record it on the spreadsheet as such.
Also, you can mention on the spreadsheet that we have a 10-month old baby.
Thanks for all your help!